It's entered my consciousness lately that much of our lives are dictated by un-written rules, which in many cases, no-one has any idea of where they came from. The 'shoulds' and 'should nots' of our lives can so easily cloud our vision to what is actual and what is true. And the idea of truth, is in itself a very difficult concept to grasp. What is true for you, may very well be a polar untruth to me. I have been pondering these things for a while and they confuse me. I know that if I have a problem, I could ask twenty people for advise or their angle on the situation, and I will more than likely recieve more than one solid piece of advise. I believe it is important to gain perspective from people around us, especially when during extreme emotional or distressing times, our own judgement can be clouded. But ultimately, there needs to be a choice. Even if all of the advice or recommendations are worthy of attention, there still needs to be an executive decision made to which direction one will take.
For me, I have probably mentioned this before, but I have tended to live either in an absolute mind-set. The rigidity of this is very paralyzing and leaves very little room for tweeking. As I have recently started to learn, thoughts, emotions, life, is an organic system that needs watering, and the space to grow. If we are bound by the 'rules' of religion, family expectations or societal doctrines, then we ultimately restrict ourselves. Not that any of these things are negative either. I know that most of our value and belief structures and developed during early childhood. So it's a matter of sortin out what is beneficial and what is no longer needed to face what comes next.
Again, random thoughts that have peaked my attention, hopefully there is some sense in there.
Till I find my poncho....
